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Rockin' Recovery

By: Super Star

Rockin' Recovery is the blog of Super Star, who chose to stay sober one day at a time after surviving an almost 15-year battle with addiction. He left the crack houses to mingle with Hollywood’s elite, which culminated in the creation of an all-star CD featuring his childhood musical heroes. Artists on the CD include current and former members of Kiss, Heart, The Goo Goo Dolls, Dokken and Trans-Siberian Orchestra. He now devotes his life to educating others about the prevention and treatment of addiction.

 

People, places and things


Nov 13, 2012

Fight Being a RobotOur values are the driving force of the choices we make and the action we take. When we are in conscious contact with what we value, choosing actions based on those values, we live a fulfilled life. Thoughts are a powerful nexus to our actions and the things that we prioritize that matter to us. Without them, we would be like robots; emotionless and living each day driven by the mechanics of life — similar to how many of us lived in our active addiction. Then, our thoughts were very mechanical weren’t they? We’d get up, go get drunk or high and repeat this process day after day; not in contact with our values and not living a fulfilled life either.

During that time in my active addiction, my core values were covered up in a haze and as a result, I was a robot to my addiction. I didn’t care about you or your pet goldfish. No awareness for the truths I now hold so dear. No consideration or compassion for anyone other than myself. Instead of living a life full of love and happiness, I lived a life without meaning or purpose.

We all have values that determine our decisions and guide our lives. Those who value health focus on how they treat their bodies. Those who value trust cannot convince themselves to lie. In recovery, I’ve found those values within me that are the foundation of who I am. Things like honesty, love, personal growth, security, self-respect and spirituality. These have all become important values to me and guide me in my daily actions.

But where do our values come from?

Our values are instilled within us by things that are constant in our environment. Digging deeper, our values come from a variety of our experiences from birth and on. For example, maybe we share a similar value base as our parent(s). Or maybe we have different values because the environment we experienced growing up didn’t connect with us. Growing up I was influenced tremendously by the musical band KISS. I was completely immersed in everything KISS. I paid so much attention to the business behind the band that overtime the creativity became one of my core values.

What I want most in life today is based entirely upon what I value; family, continued education. Or even things like the type of car or house I want or how much money I’d like to make. Each of these things have a certain level of emotion attached them and my having awareness in knowing what things in my world things create certain kinds of emotions has allowed me to stay in my recovery from drugs and alcohol.

There is this expression: “You are who you hang out with.” I believe this couldn’t be farther from the truth. I’ve experienced that in my own world. I’ve realized that as I associate with others who share similar values as I have, I am more in conscious contact with who I am at my core. And that’s brought me to living a fulfilled life.

There is no doubt that there is a connection between the environment and the types of individuals I surround myself with having a direct impact on my emotional well-being. The values that I connect with from these people, places and things are invisible in physical form but are very much real. And they are the driving force to my continued commitment to sobriety. Knowing this I must remain attentive and aware of the significance of people, places and things and never take any of it for granted again.

Image courtesy of Victor Habbock.

Comments

Rochman  2581 days ago

yuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuup! Great post today, thanks Renew, I needed this one.

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